Who Unfriended Me on Facebook Today?

Aaron Tieger
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Do you really know this person?: Only through correspondence. He published me in his mag a few years back.

Did you add this person or did (s)he add you?: Can't remember. Probably I invited.

Is this person famous or notable?: Not famous. Isn't everyone "notable?"

Are you sad?: Oh, I don't know. This one has a backstory. We were "friends" since I've been on FACEBOOK, although we never had any exchanges there. He seems to have a circle of admirers who spend most of their day gaa-gaaing over his posts. Once or twice or thirty-three times, I think I said something on his posts, but he never acknowledged my existence. I sort of got a palpable feeling of dislike at that point, or maybe a form of grudging tolerance. I didn't cross the line. My words weren't overly familiar or contentious in any way. It was vanilla affability. I hadn't said anything on his posts for quite some time when he deleted me. It was the day after my birthday, so maybe something about my birthday irritated him. Maybe I reached a certain age as in Logan's Run, where they have to "retire" you. Maybe he realized I had become a total friend whore by then, after my late night Ativan/diphenhydramine addfest.

Did he just delete you or has his profile vanished? Here's more of the backstory. He deleted me, and then was probably shocked when my software told me and I immediately tried to re-add him. Was I being an asshole? A bit of one, yes. So he sat on the request for a while, I guess letting it "cool off." Then he deleted the friend request today or last night. He left it open, oddly enough, for me to add him again, didn't block me, but maybe that will change when he reads this.

Are you happier now?: Oddly enough, my life hasn't changed one bit.

Would you give this person another chance if they wanted to be your friend again if you became rich, famous, powerful or all three?. I'm not sure. I'd have to think about it.

Any consolatory thoughts to put a spin on this?: I'm okay with this.

Any regrets?: Well, I liked him. He was very normal and friendly in several letters we exchanged. Maybe he decided I just shouldn't exist in this medium for him.

Alexander Jorgensen

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Alexander Jorgensen
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Do you really know this person?: No.

Did you add this person or did (s)he add you?: I can't remember. I didn't add him because I know him or his work, if he even has "work," so if it was I, it had to be a blind add.

Is this person famous or notable?: I have no idea.

Are you sad?: Yes. As I said before, each man's FACEBOOK friendship death diminishes me.

Did he just delete you or has his profile vanished:Not sure. It looks like it might have been turned off or else deleted. Other people with this name come up, but it's not the same guy. They're all different people.

Are you happier now?: Well, my friendship count didn't change, so I think somebody who "deleted" me didn't really, but simply turned their profile back on. Because I didn't see a new "acceptance" note for somebody pending. This happens a lot.

Would you give this person another chance if they wanted to be your friend again if you became rich, famous, powerful or all three?. Sure. Why not?

Any consolatory thoughts to put a spin on this?: Maybe he died. Kidding! I'm just kidding! Jeez!

Any regrets?: What, that I didn't slobber all over him in an early a.m. IM when I used to be a drunk? I mean if he is hot or something. I don't know if he is. Maybe he's 85. I really have no mental picture whatsoever of this guy. I'm sure he was the same way about me. It's just FACEBOOK. Oh, regrets? Not really. But thanks for asking.






It's so easy to torture yourself with "How could I have been a better Facebook friend?!? " In many ways this is similar to the trauma and post-tramautic stress that friends of suicides undergo. In fact, you might even consider joining one of the Friends of Suicides support groups. They will understand "where you're coming from."